It shouldn't be that complicated. So why have you spent three days thinking about it? You've made the pros and cons list. You've asked your partner. You've texted your friend. You've researched every possible option. You've imagined approximately 47 different ways this could go wrong. And somehow, you still don't feel any closer to an answer. If this sounds familiar, you may call yourself indecisive. But I'm not sure that's always what's happening. For a lot of the high-achieving, anxious, perfectionistic, and neurodivergent adults we work with, difficulty making decisions isn't about not knowing what you want. It's about feeling like you need to make the perfect decision. And that's an impossible standard.

You meet your deadlines. You have a successful career. People describe you as responsible, driven, organized, or ambitious. But what they don't see is the twelve alarms on your phone. They don't see you waiting until the last possible moment to complete something and then working intensely for hours. They don't see the pile of tasks you've been avoiding, the appointments you almost forgot, or how mentally exhausted you feel by the end of the day.